Bill DeMott and David Brady

What's she gonna do? Brother? When Jeff Townsend media runs wild on you, Molly Okay, here we are on the b D. And I love this show because I say, just I go to my YouTube show. The Build Them On experience is about meeting people who have a story to tell that's interesting and it can be translated to everyone. And I love coaches. I love life coaches. I love coaches of kids, parents. I love people with positive messages. And we're talking the thing for me lately, I've been talking about a lot on football. In this part, we touch on it on face value with Casey and we talked about the Will Smith movie Concussion, and we talk about the NFL all the time, and we'll get into it with Miss Paula about the hits that have gone on and still the conversation that's going on there. But concussions affect more than just the football player, more than just the professional wrestler. And I talked to a lot of guys and girls about it like that too. But concussions play a big part in today's I don't know society is the right word, but in today's living, a lot of people have suffered head injuries and you don't hear a lot about it because they're not entertainers. They're they're not professional athletes. And we're gonna meet a man today who's got a not only a great story, but had instance with concussion that changed his life. And I don't want to go into it any farther before I introduced my guest, David Brady. Mister Brady, welcome to the BDE and take it away. Well, thank you very much. Bill. It's great to be here and great to be alive. Let me just say that for the record. And also, I had an opportunity to go watch Concussion. I don't know if you've seen it yet. I haven't seen it yet, but it's unlike to do list why you want to see it, because if Will Smith does not get nominated next year for this movie, there is no justice in the world. His performance is beyond belief how powerful it is. And the irony of it is that in the middle of the movie I actually started the tears started coming down my face because what happened is it had brought back for me the experience and you're going to see who I'm talking about, the football player who stands there pounding his head, going like, what's wrong? And you know very succinctly, which is not my what not? What I'm prone to do is that in twenty ten January four so six years and four days or five days ago, a mother asked me to speak to her young son my original graduate work in the behavioral sciences. I went on, I mean, I've got quite a buried background, but I was being trained to be a therapist. I was going to work with alcohol and drugs kids and had had problems with that. I'd myself have been in recovery since I was twenty one, forty five years by making the US on MAT congratulating, we're very grateful. And what happened is that this young man, she hoped he was just an alcoholic, or she just hoped he would just at a drug addict, but in truth he had paranoid schizoprenia. And I had said to her, my instincts are this is not a good idea for me to do this, but she said, please, he'll listen to you. And I happened to have been in Florida. I drove thirty hours up from Florida to Toronto, and I was exhausted when I got to that house and I should not have gone in, but I went in and I saw him, and I could tell that there was something very wrong, given terry erratic. And I went into a room with them and I said, look, whatever you talk to me about is sanc resect between you and I. I'm not going to repeat it to your mother. It is like talking. He and I got to the same Catholic I'd probably the same school that he did, Della salda private school, and I said, it's like talking to one of the brothers of the priests. It's between you and me. And the dog came in and I bent over to pet the dog, and the next thing I know, he hit me so hard. When they say you see stars, I literally only could see stars. The kids you were there helping. I was there to help him. And he was six foot two, worked out three hours a day, by his own admission in a letter to me, to control the voices in his head who told him at that moment to kill me. And he jumped on top of me, put my arms, pinned my arms under his legs, and proceeded to eat. It was between six and seven blows. I lost out around four or five, and then there were two more, and the first one was a peril. I mean, it hurts so much. The second one I could actually feel my brain inside my skull. The third and the fourth I wanted to shock. And I started to get very peaceful, and I looked up at him and I said, what are you doing? And there was nobody home. And the bottom line on it is that when I escaped, because I only escaped, thank god, because his sisters were there. One of the girls was very big. She wrote for one of the universities, I believe. But the bottom line is that I got to a hospital and they said to me when I walked in because I left, that my hands were like this shaking because of the shock. And I just ram from this house literally and got out a car. But I had just driven thirty hours and tried to get to my home and I had a house in the country and it was two hours away. But I didn't make it. I had to go to a hospital and they put me into the emergency and they said, oh my god, you know, and they looked at me, and what essentially happened is and when you get shocked, when you get a concussion, you don't you can't think straight. Your whole brain stops functioning. And that's how I connected to that scene in the movie where the football player's pounding staying need help, and I couldn't think. And it only got worse over the next two and a half to three years because what happened is I wanted to hiding. I went to the hospital. They tried to get me to go in and stay under observation. They said, look, you've had concussion. We don't know how many you had. Later on, a specialist when they did the MRI, they did a three D PET scan of my brain. They injected me with nuclear so they could see what was going on with both your temper lopes are seriously damaged. But what I did is I was so irrational that I went and hit because of post traumatic stress. And it's a whole other area about my childhood because I survived the father trying to murder me when I was twelve, and yeah, like I mean, it's a story that would bring out chairs to the eyes of a statue. But I was blessed with a cool of inner strength and inner court. And what happened is that that PTSD just kicked in and I did everything to survive. And it was over the next eighteen to twenty months that the damage started to show up every day in every way. And I can give you an example. I was with my ex wife and I'm close to both my ex wife ironically, and first act, wife takes me up to lunch. I parked the car, go to lunch. An hour later, I come out. It's not like, oh jeez, where did I leave my car? I mean, there was no recollection at any level where if I had driven there. And the fear came over me again like a tidal weight, and I understood at that moment with people with Alzheimer's must feels like And it was incredible, the terror. And then I began to see a young nephew of mine. I'd known him his entire life. He was seventeen. I couldn't remember his knee and I would end up losing eighty percent of my memory. And what happened is I had so much production because I also had an incredible career as a producer. I've written, produced, and directed over one hundred and thirty primetime episodes of television for Discovery Usnssonian Channel, National Geographic. I've produced movies for the Disney Channel for United Artists with Francis Ford Coppola. I mean, I've had this incredible career and I was also a professor at three universities, so I used to have a memory. And this is all prior to the incident. While all of that I was able to do prior to the incident, once the incident happened, I couldn't remember my own name, never mind somebody else's. And the first I don't mean to interrupt you, but I'm I'm I'm listening to this and I'm I'm trying to I want to understand, is that your first UM concussion? Is that the first time you were diagnosed with a concussion. Yeah, and it was that severe? Yes, Because I had multiple concussions one time. You can have multiple cos I'm a X football player, I rustled professionally sports retainer for twenty eight years. I've suffered my UM more than my fair share of concussions, not to the extent that that you received yours. And one of the subjects for me is as I get older, what are the what are the effects of it? But that's a that's a different conversation. I think what's more important just for me and I want you to continue that. Don't mean to cut you off, but you suffered multiple concussions on one attack. Yes, that brings us to that. But every time, listen, concussion is a nice word for a brain injury. That's said to me, And he said, every time he smashed your face and skull. If I were to show you the pictures of my face, this art of my face wrapped around my ear. Oh, tops of my cranium was up about an inch and a half and this side the lacerations were so deep. I mean, this young man was in the midst of a psychotic break from reality, working out three like physique, three hours a day. He had to pump her and tried to control the voices and every my head being on the floor. Every time he smashed his flist, my head smashed into the hardwood floor. Guess what that is a concussion. So essentially I sent you, Well, how many could I have had? He said between fourns up deciding, multy really got you. And so in my case, it really, but it took months for it to kick in at its most severe. The truth is it really what happened is three years part of me two years ago right about now. I was introduced to a friend in Canada. The psychiatrists treating our soldiers coming out of Afghanistan. Who are the guys the same as the Americans, but it were in Afghanistan, you were in Iraq, And these are the guys getting blown up with the id S and these are the people that are working. And I have a lot of experience in the Middle East because I did a series with the US State Department Diplomatic Security, and that's I can get off on a whole other subject with you because I traveled all through those hot spots. The point is is that that when that started to kick in the people. The psychiatrist that was helping my friend, he said, you've got to go do this radical new and I want to say, anybody that's ever had a concussion needs to find the local practitioner. And it's called neuro feedback and U E R O feedback and neuro feedback. They put an electrode on this side of my scalp, on that side of my scalp, on the top of my craning here on this side both hemisphere so you're left and right hemisphere, and then one down here that that grounds you, and it's the same electrical charts that an ECG uses and the brain using what's called systems theory, which ironically was my original graduate work in university, was to the brain tells itself what neuropathways, neuro receptors are damaged or blocked, and it finds an alternative route to work around. And I've had ninety five sessions, and at number forty, I can remember the moment when I was sitting in a chair and I'll jump for a moment, I went like that, and I felt the shift in my brain and a sudden the memory started to come back, and I started to be able to understand what had happened to me, and I began to calm down. And one of the unexpected benefits was post traumatic stress from my childhood because I had a dad that we lived in this beautiful hall. I was raised in a very privileged background. But my father, who was a fifty five when I was born, and he had hest in those dates, I didn't understand what it was. And of course he is his manifested in alcoholism, and in spite of the fact he was a civic politician, remarkably successful in his chosen career in the insurance industry, and we lived in a beautiful home. I attended private schools. At the age of twelve, standing on a stairway, he loaded a twelve gate shop I'm named it of my mother and I and pulled the tricker three times. So you know, I had such post traumatic stress that it was defied description. It all evaporated when I did the mural feedback. In addition to restoring my brain's functionality, I can't say that I've got one hundred percent, but I bet you I have at least eighty to ninety percent of my function back. That it's remarkable too. As as you're telling this, I say story, not that it's a story. As you're sharing this, Mike, the most real, real story I've had shared with me in along time. I'm picturing because you and I had a chance to talk before the before this interview, and and we'll go we'll go back. We'll go to the books and the movies and the TVs and the music. Because you've lived up until this point a fascinating life, and to listen to you so articulate and so like together, you would never think that you went through something that you're describing, so one of the things for me, and I'm going to ask you this question because to me, you're the expert of the two of us. For sure, you're the expert on this. What's the number? Do you know the number? Have you done research on this? Now? How many people normal, everyday people who aren't football players, rugby players, wrestlers, you know, hockey, whatever, wherever people? Because I think that the general public beliefs that concussions only happen in sports, not an accidents, not tragedies. And do you think that's why we can't get a grasp on concussions because you just don't know who has this trauma. Anybody that's ever been in an automobile accident, that has ever hit their head on a dashboard, on a window, anybody that has ever slipped and fallen in the winter and landed on the back of their head, anybody that's ever been in a fist fight in a bar. When you're a kid, you know, people get disorderly, drunken, disorderly. Anybody that's ever been slapped horror by a parent as a child probably has experience a concussion and that it's in degrees, right, So do you think that's a term that's used loosely now as always got a concussion. No, I actually don't think it's recognized at all. I think it's only being recognized now because of this movie. I think that people were subjected to them long before we had any knowledge or understanding up and you're only becoming aware now. And it's smoking ones everybody you're sitting to. My mother was the head of the anesthetic department of six Children's Hospital in Toronto and another hospital and talent I grew up, and then they would sit there smoking cigarettes. Nobody understood the severity and the impact that cigarette smoke would have, nor did they want you to because naturally insurance companies, with all due respect, they don't want you to talk about concussions because then they have to make settlements that are representative of the damage done to a human being. I shot my company down after thirty years I had started it up. I've been a producer for thirty years. I've been president of a very large company called Red Apple Entertainment. I had shot that. I resigned from that company, moved to the country, thinking I would live the life of Riley to get bored. I lasted six months and I started up another production company in two thousand and five and in two By two thousand and nine, I had a series, four other productions including National Sorry Smithsonian Channel, the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation, which is the largest public brought pastor in the world outside the BBC, much larger than BBS in truth in dollars and cent and I was producing out of Europe for France five Discovery Europe, Discovery International, Discovery, a US, Discovery Canada, and I had so much production that what happened is in those four years starting up to my business kept Dublin. The first year we did a small series, second year we did a series and a programmer that I went off documentary. I had done movies prior to that, but when I changed there made a decision that I would change the direction of my life. I stopped producing feature films because of course, I ran into the Bolivian Marching Power when I was a very young guy in Hollywood and I was introduced to it, and that ended very quickly because and the thing about it is, I chose not to live that life, to be in Los Angeles and to be crazy to Canada, where I was able to teach at universities, and I was able to also write and produce really elledge and television, which has become an oxymoron. And the fact of the matter is that at the end of that between when I was damaged in two thousand and ten and July twenty thirteen, so two and a half years ago, I had to shut down temporarily, I thought my production company. But I had so much production going from that the head injury in two thousand and ten that it kept going into twenty thirteen, and I had a three to five out of ten. In other words, I would go into a network. I'm the only that I know of Canadian pre pre producer at nbc SO and during this period, I was at NBC at all the meetings. They only added we were. The president was there and there was only a small group of us, including mostly LA that allowed to be present at that network. But what happened is I went from three out of five times when I would pitch ten projects, I would get three out of five. And then I went through after the injury, I went to three hundred and thirty knows wow nobody. And then I said to one of the people who used to work for me. That was ahead of one of the major major channels in Canada. I said, what's going on. You've got to be frank and tell me. He said, you don't have what you used to have. And he said, I worked for you day, but you're I've got three composals. Yours as good. It's as good as anybody's. But it's not like what it was. And were you aware of that until you were told? Were you? Were you in your mind? Were you working the same as you always worked? No? I was scared to do. I was scared to that. I knew that there was something really wrong. I mean I was. I actually can remember contemplating suicide. And that's the other thing that these guys all did. And that's what happens to these people who really suffered severe concussion. Particularly it depending on what you position you played in football. The guys that were just hammering every week, every week, every week, you know. I mean, you take a look at hockey and you look at the kid, the Canadian kid, he's only had three and he's done. I mean, he is the best hockey player to come along. It's Wayne Gretzky. But if he has another concussion, it's over. I mean, this guy will be brain damage to the point, and it's you know, you can't keep doing that to yourself because the damage it does take time to show up in brain injuries. If you haven't got damaged by now, you're okay. I knew I was damaged. I was terrified, and I kept thinking, my life as I know it is over. And it was at that point that I said to three friends one night in a diner. One was what you would call an American Episcopalian priest. He's an Anglican priest to me, my best friend Dennis, who was a vice president of a very large telecommunications company and an artist buddy of mine. And I was sitting at dinner and I didn't I had no emotion about it. I said, look, I'm thinking off in myself. And they looked at me and they said wow. I said, I don't see any future. I said, I have to shut my company down. I can't. I can't. My brain won't work anymore. I can't think anymore. I can't think clearly anymore. I can't figure out because I had overcome so much adversity as a young man, and I just never met a problem or an obstacle I couldn't overcome. I was beaten, I was powerless. It was I was done. I was done, and I mean I came out. I overcame alcohol, I overcame drugs. I overcame a father that wanted to murder me. I overcame emotions. I overcame these feelings of blow self esteem. I did so much work on myself. I thought, honest to God, I'm never going to get over this. And that's the moment at which my friend turned to me and I never knew this, And he said, you know what, if you knew that, you're being a selfish, the most selfish human being. He said, my brother committed suicide and had destroyed our family and he'd never told me that. And he said, I've never told anyone that. You have no idea the pain it cause. And I have four kids and four grandkids. And then my friend, who was the minister, said we need to help you. You don't want to do that. That's the point at which I went and got serious self. That's the point at which I really started, and I went to a friend who got me to specialist. And you know it was too I call it the grace of God. And I'm not like a traditionally religious guy in a sense of you know, I'm I believe that there is a God, I'm not it and that I was raised Irish Catholic, but you know, I have no issue with that. But it just something happened for me that gave me the grace to be able to make the move to get the help medically, and ironically, I got a doctor, a psychiatrist. I had to go to a psychiatrist, and then I had to go to a whole bunch of specialists. And it's weird. And that's what my book is about, the aging with dignity, living with grace. Here's the thing about it. There is nobody on the planet. There's not one of us that has ever, at any time in their lives not confronted something that is blindsided. This whether it's a marriage ending and the oldness, a para dying, a financial reversal, the end of a career, the end of a friendship, all of these things are traumatic and they affect us all exactly the same way. And I don't think you would be human if at some point in your life you haven't thought hasn't crossed your mind. Well, there's no point in looking right. I mean, I don't think everybody has that, but I think the majority of people have that. And I think that at some point, where men or women are confronted by these inevitable crisises that come up, we have to find a way out. And what I found a way out through. And again, you know, I just found because the psychiatrists they put me on medication, and I had this whole attitude about medication because of my background academically, but also because I just felt that it was a weaker person's way out. What I didn't understand is my ignorance was just overwhelming that that medical degree I paid fifty bucks for online had no validity at any times to council people. Oh, you don't need medication because they were depressed. I thought, I understood it has nothing to do with mood altering or any kind of victor they're in. It's some kind of program or they're not supposed to do any The doctor explained to me when he said to me, in very harsh terms, I want you to shut up right now and listen to me, and he gave me a lecture that I heard loud and clear. Brain chemistry. It has to do with a thing called we all have a serotonin and what happened the brain damage is the serotonin had been removed from my brain and I didn't have any and I needed to get these reinhibitors upgrade. And I mean, these SSRIs have got a bad rap because of kids, young kids committing suicide, which again I don't I'm part of the media. I know what we do to stores I suspect and anybody who suffered a death of the child or anything. My brother's daughter died very young, so I know what it's like. But but in the case the majority of people, it was like somebody flipped a switch for me the day after I took it and my brain started to work and that, combined with the neurofeedback, allowed me to survive. But it was this doctor also got me on medication and me praying, and I said come on, and he said no, I want you to follow me. And he was irish, and he was the funniest guy. He said, if he'll use prayer and medication, you're like, will improve. They said, you're kidding. Then he said no, but he said, it's positive. It's positive affirmations acknowledging that we need help and now is the beginning. And that's why I used the Eight Steps of the Mastermind. I attended a thing called unity, which is a very non traditional, very positive. It integrates many religious and spiritual beliefs and it's the best of everything. It's like a Schmorger's border disturage in value. And that's what my books are about. How I utilize the eight Steps, which, by the way, we're created by the late Nay Great inspired by Nepoga help and thinking get rich this minister and utilized his principles of the Mastermind. When two or more gathered, you can get out. So you're with like minded, positive people that empower us to move ahead regardless of yourself. Surround yourself with it. Yeah, now it's it's so I'm just like I'm taking I'm soaking it all in and I'm I'm thinking to myself. The first thing I'm thinking to myself, and I'm gonna be like, I guess brutally honest, is I don't I don't know if I could do what you did. I don't one And I say I don't know because I I you know, I've spent a couple of mornings. You know, you spend a couple of mon Like you said, everybody has those moments of I don't want to do this anymore, or this and that and and recently my family has suffered a major a major loss, and and all these things that go on. But you talk about these concussions and the brain and people's that's that's why you and I are talking today because you have been through it. You had one of two decisions to make, and listening to you talk about the positivity and surrounding yourself with positive like people and do any things, because it is very easy to understand if you would have said, thank goodness. You didn't. By the way, I'm very happy that you didn't. Thank you that you've survived it. How you survived it, I can only I can only listen and appreciate the story. But the fact that that's why I wanted I wanted to speak with you today because your message from what I from what I'm getting just from this part of this is that there's more for us. And if you look for it, but you need, I'm gonna be all over because you have my brain. Really, and I don't mean that comically, you have my brain thinking about a million things right now, but you have to be ready for that and to hear how you got to the point where you got the help. And then I'm just fascinated that you've written two books and are working on more projects when literally a short six years ago, I was done his dinner, done his dinner. But to watch you and talks, to talk to you and listen to this story, I'm thinking, get keep it coming. Tell me I want to know about the books. I want to because you're you're telling it from life experience. There's people who write books who have an idea. Do you share that with the childhood trauma? Do you share your story in that book fully? Yeah? Absolutely? And it's here's the thing. Look, and I works how a person say to me, like, are you not ashamed what you did? When I said, here's what I know about life. If you haven't thought about doing what I've done, you've probably done it is don't want to admit it. But where none of us are all that different. You know, it has nothing to do with our backgrounds. It has nothing. It's biology. We function ninety percent at the time of of biology. What separates us from the animal species is the gift that we were given by whatever the creator of the universe was, that we have consciousness and we have values. And within us, though, is the biology driving us forward. And we have very simple basic drivers that every single one of us has. And the difference as we evolve as spiritual or human beings is that we evolve to a place where we can manage these impulses. The majority of the time. Nobody's perfect. I don't care who you are, I got news for you. The Pope isn't perfect. And I'm liking this guy the first time. I'm like a Catholic pope and a novel us, but this guy I really like. I mean, this is this is the last great both the Catholic Church as I think of surviving, is this man because this man is truly spiritual and truly, I think, a representative of what the whole message of the original form of Christianity was and more a realist than anybody else. Yeah, and an encompassing Judaism. By the way, everybody keeps for getting Jesus with Jew, not a Roman, Catholic or anything else. And it's this a whole other area that I've spent a lot of time on producing a lot of shows about and all those things. My books are incredibly One of the great fears I had was, now, look, I have a background. I have a master's degree in screenwriting. I had I've produced, and I had written and had to produced sixty scripts, some features, some television, some dramas, some you know, I do a lot of docu dramas because that allowed me the opportunity to have intelligent television. I did the Counter Force with the US State Department that aired in September two thousand and one, and the story was on the World Trade Center and the agent from Diplomatic Security looked into the camera and said, I know they're coming, we don't know when. And they hit one week to the day. And I mean, that was prescient and bizarre. But you know, I've been privileged to be able to meet the most remarkable people. I did a show called The Pagan Christ that basically deconstructed the whole myths and everything around. I'm a Roman Catholic and Tom Harper was a Rhodes scholar and an Anglican Piscompetitian theologian and an Anglican Piscopetian priest ordained seventy years old, said look, we need to re examine the basis of Christianity, and I mean I wanted. I got hammered by the majority of evangelical fundamentalists, and then I went and did it. They challenged me to do a show on that subject, which I did. I said, I'm happy to I'm not out to destroy one's faith or but I said, you've got to be intelligent about it, because what was said two thousand years ago, If you don't understand the genesis of it, where it came from, and that we adopted all of these rituals, and you know I'm Catholic, and the Vatican sitting on top of his arrest and temple, I mean, they just incorporated all these things. So I can go up on a million different subjects about how we need and as human beings we have faith. I did a show of Life After Death with Tom Harper that went for ten episodes on Discover Us, and so all of these subjects were subjects that I was able to assimilate and be able to punch out. When I came into my books, the only thing I could do was write my personal story and share the experience of what happened to me, combined with the empirical knowledge I have from thirty forty years ago in Bradford School when I also did the master's in behavioral Sciences before I went on to do the other one. So all of that could say life is hard a lot of the time, and we need tools to deal with it. And the eight steps of the mastermind principle created by the late Jack and this minister, where the principles that I can encompass and incorporate. Because they said I'm powerless. I was powerless over my brain. I could not I needed help. That I had to come to believe that there was something greater than me that I could ask for help and get it. That I had to be willing to let go of these old ideas. And the old idea was the one that I sat there thinking I should offer myself. That's not the idea that I had to ask for help to change, to let go of that belief and to disregard beliefs I heard as a child, particularly having grown up in violent alcohol home, I had so many messages that were unhealthy that my father in his ignorance, because intergenerationally we passed these things onto our own kids and we don't mean to, but that's what we've heard. And so in my case, I incorporated the eight steps of the Mastermind, and all my books are everything i've right now is on the Mastermind because it really works, because it sets people up to form small groups of like minded people that support us in achieving our goal, and the goals that are worth achieving are in my case, look, I spent I spent the first twenty years of my career getting I got a place in New York. If you ever saw the movie Scarface, Yeah, I lived in that apartment in Manhattan. Okay, Okay. I lived in a beach house in Malibu. I had a house. It was on the cover of Architectural Digest in Drama, and I had a beautiful home on the ocean of West Vancouver. I was That was the first realization when I was suicidal. We were nominated for the Golden Goal of Exactly Oh my God Now nineteen eighty three, and we just produced this movie. We were working Francis Ford Coplazotrope Studios presented the movie. United Artists distributed it. I was working actually out of George Lucas's building, the A Company and Universal studios nominated, and I'm thinking, how is this possible that I feel so horrible? And then I realized, and this is the point. If I can make no other point, I want to make this one to you that every single challenge and difficulty I have ever faced in my life, I have never learned anything on a good day that every time I've been jammed into a corner found myself at an impast or experienced emotional trauma or incredible hurt and paining, of losing two marriages, of losing a wonderful relationship that I had, they're gut wrenching, they just debilitating. It's always been the catalyst for the greatest change in my life. If I hadn't experienced those moments, I wouldn't be where I am today, and I would not know what I know today, and I wouldn't be able to help others. And what I have discovered and uncovered is that true happiness is a byproduct of being a service. I write my books to try to help others because I was given a gift. Do you feel God, Galli, I'll tell you what you're I don't like the word inspiring because I feel like that's used everybody can throw that word out to me. It's like the word passion. Everybody says they passion. But and I'm inspired because that I and I agree with that, Lad with with so much. But the last part is being of service and to help others. Do you feel like going back a little bit earlier, do you think that the biggest problem or issue that we're talking about is people won't ask for help? One of them absolutely because it's uh, it's not u when it's not manly for men to help, it's not by pride and pride and I can do this on my own. Do you think that that's the biggest So do you do you cover that? Do you talk? Because I want to for everybody in iTunes, who who who's not watching this on the Realm Network and everybody who's catching up and just maybe just tuning in. I'm talking to David Brady and and David is fascinating the the the before and after story. The main topic of today was concussions and how how how it dealt with every day, but the before and after story from mister Brady is fascinating it and we're catching up to the results of people, people who need coaching, and the people who coach. I think that's the more important message for me of all the things that I have said, You've been through it and now you want to help you. You want to service to your thing and the small groups is fascinating to me. And everything else. And of all the things you've accomplished, all your accolades, would you say, this is your this is your time. Yeah, I can feel it. It's shifted. It shifted, it actually shifted it in the last ninety days. That's the irony. How cool could not sell for two years has sold. I'm back in Vancouver, where I want to be. While I'm sitting in part of my art right now, but I'm back in Vancouver. The book, just one of the Aging with Dignity shocked me. I won it's called the People's Favorite Award. It's a very large, four thousand entrance. I was up against New York Times bestsellers, and I mean, I want to tell you this is not I mean for the intelligencia. When they read this book, they're going to go and blow it up. You know what I wrote my television shows and by the way, my show's averaged one hundred percent higher than any other show on the network when put up in this SAME's time slot, and I wrote it. If you had a great seven education or seventh grade, as you would say, you could understand what I'm saying because I have her vocabulary that if I chose to, I can utilize in a way that will leave most people sitting scratching their heads. Where I go way over there, what's the point? What am I trying to do? My egos kicked in and I'm trying to impress somebody. No, that's not the name of the game. The name of the game is what can I share with you? When I say to you it's gutbridge. When I say to you that I felt that I had nothing to live for, that's much saying, better saying than my maladaptive behavior put me into a non homeostatic state where I felt that there was no purpose in living. You know, first of all of sitting back on what the fuck is hard? Me? What this holme estate? It's real? That's where we are network. I love it. Yeah. Yeah, So so my point is that it's getting real. People don't ask for help, they don't want to ask her it help, they're ashamed, they feel less than they feel embarrassed. They feel humiliated. I felt humiliated. I felt that somehow I had done something wrong. I didn't realize that this person was mentally ill, and I harbored no resentment of her angry and might feel sorry for her. I'm angry. I'm not even angry at his mother. I'm disappointed that she was in such denial that she put my life at risk. And then, and that's all I want to say about that, because it's it's in litigation, and I don't need to say any more about that. But it's disappointing to me. But I had to experience something because of someone else's and essentially it's selfishness. It's it's they don't want to be humiliated and embarrassed that their child is mentally ill, instead of reckoning it's old. My child's mental ill, I need to get them help. So they were incapable of getting that child help when it was suggested to them because they felt that as someone with a lower academic standing without the training with a psychiatrist that could fix them. But I'm still worried about and but that's the generation that h I think I grew up in, and probably my my folks and people. That was the that was the thing. You don't want to let anybody know you have problems or issues. You you have to handle everything yourself and their way to really end your life prematurely and bring on stress, anger, remorse, resentment, and bitterness. And by the time you're you're fifty, like I am, You're I'm not. But there are people who are miserable. Yeah, and life is negative and that's what I want more than anything, is for people to get away from that, especially my kids. And because I'd say we're a pretty positive household and I have a seven year old boy and trying to get him to understand the things that one I wasn't taught. Not that my mom didn't take great care. I love my mom, but the things that she knew are different than the things I know now. And then we have to pass that on. And I think it just comes to terms with you can be a man's man. I consider myself a man's man, but know when you need help, and especially when it comes to your mind, your person, your inner being and things like that. Yeah, And that's an important part and an important point to remember, and it's the key for people to get better and by the way. Both my books The Aging with Dignity, Living with Grace and my Healing Childhood Transforming Childhood Drama Eight Spiritual Steps. My whole point is I give you a blueprint to how to live here, and it's a very simple eight step blueprint how to overcome adversity, find peace of mind and real purpose in life. And that's why I write what I do. And these books are available on Amazon, correct, and I had them out with a publisher, a wonderful publisher art of Texas called Virtual Bookworm. But the point is, the majority of themselves on Amazon, and it's easier for me to manage Amazon and Kindle are available in both. Yeah, and then truth I need to Now I've had the exclusive on Kindle on the one. I have to do the other. We'll just end the Healing Childhood Traum and I'll put them out um where people will be able to get them in bookstores. But I'm right now, I'm in the middle of writing sex for Boomers and for boomers, Sex for Boomers, and I was looking for somebody here part of Artifer some brieester. It's actually it's about relationships, and really it's a book about relationship with sex Sells and it's It starts off with the very humorous first story of my first encounter at sixteen with at my best friend's hours. Tell the story, Please tell the story. I end up with the most beautiful girl in the neighborhood through sixteen, and I have no idea why she picks me. At this point, I am so insecure and think I'm skinny, like you're a big guy, right. I was so skinny, Listen, I had to run around the shower to get wet. You know, I have won't strip at the jams. I mean, I'm talking skinny. And I was so humiliated. I would always wear long sleeve shirts in the summer because I was so thin. However, this girl takes a shine to me, and there we are. The night comes, we're over at my best friend's house. This is my best friend. And I'll send you that show by the way that you can't show it anybody. Okay, we'll go the hour three and you'll see Johnny Brower. He's the one that brought John Lennon to Toronto and with Eric Clapton and Klaus Lerman and if and he goes out, he doesn't tell me I'm in there. I'm using his bedroom and I'm having the time of my life. I'm getting there, it's all gonna happen. And all of a sudden, the door opens and I hear Johnny and I sit to his mother and I said, no help, I said, no, missus Brower, It's just me, David. He flips on the light and I hear banging ahead, hitting the floor from fading, and I'm thinking, am I gonna give this up? No, because I'm know what down for her? And uh as she comes to and I hear then bag again twice in a row, and the young lady I was said, let's count of here and we ran home. Well, she got up, held together, called my mother's waiting for me at home with the broom. I'm sixty, takes room to me the next morning, as God is my witness, grabs him by the ear, and off I go to the local parish priest, where I say, bless me, Father, drives God. I want to do it again. I did not see the hand coming that cuffed me off the back of the head. My gosh, And that's that's how your book starts. How it starts. And then you wonder why I had a trauma the rest of my life. Oh my god, you know what, I might have to talk to my mom because I'm sure I got a few backhands for that's tremendous. So living for everybody in iTunes. I want to get this out there too. David Brady Communications dot Com is where you can. You can pick up the books as well. Right you can order the books through you. You can go to David Brady Productions. You can go to David Brady Books dot Com. I mean it, I come up. It comes up under my productions website. But if you go to David Brady Productions or that one right there, that's the specific email. It'll take you to the two books, okay, that are available right now. And there's also short video it's very short, two minutes in a five minute one, and that explaining the mastermind principle. I think you're I think when you're ready to do your next documentary, I think you need a three hundred and forty pound guy to tag along because I think I'd have the time of my life with just amazing. So before we I want to touch on some of the projects you're doing now. But I found it interesting earlier and because concussions are in the in the back of my mind as a coach. We we have that rule now in professional wrestlinger sports entertainment they call it now and you have a you have a tide of wrestling that I want to talk about as well. Um, but uh, that's the rule, the general rule now because because everybody's going into this protocol and finding out these head injuries from from the older guys, and and how guys are living when they're sixty sixty plus, and how their boys have changed, and how their mental capacities changed. There's there's a thing, like you said in hockey, the young kid who's three and out. We've had a few young guys and girls, you know, two and three within a year or something like that, that are erect and their their career is over. Do you think while it ends someone's career, the bigger picture is we have to take care of these athletes. You have to is you're gonna end their lives. As witnessed by the numbers of suicides in the National Football League. Yeah, these pants were going out and they were also going out and killing people. They would get insane. This a few cases of that where they would go off the deep end and get into situations where they altercations. The problem is that you can't the head gear and that they've improved everything so dramatically, and you know they need to protect them. My young grand son and plays hockey, hockey, plays football in h He lives in Nashville, and you know, he's ten, So you got to watch out because the brains are small and they're developing, especially in the young kids. So we just have to be careful. And you know, I mean, in a perfect world, I would say there's no tackling at that age, and there shouldn't be in hockey. There should be you know, no slapshots coming when you're up until you get the bandroom level because you get whacked in the head with a part. Yeah. All the yeah, all the things we know now. My boys seven and loves football and he's a big he's a big seven year old and he wants to play football, but he's he's a great baseball player for his age. And I that's my fear as someone who came up playing football and a little bit of college and then wrestling. My pretty much my whole life is that I fear the things that we know now was the thing that my mother was worried about when she left me, is he gonna get hurt and you don't know how hurt you are right now. No, that's right, and that if that's the insidious thing about you don't help her to up. It doesn't show up immediately. It tastes in some cases years to ball. I'm just just I think this is a conversation, and as the movie builds momentum, I think there's a conversation we're gonna have for years, and it's not just athletes. And for sharing that part of your life with me, I thank you so much, because I think it's important. There's roofers that fall off the roof and get a concussion. There's I mean, everybody under the sun. These hoverboard kids who are falling down concussion. Yep, yep. You know, kids are playing in the street whiffleball concussion, and it's life altering if you don't if it's untreated, it's life altering. And there's families at risk. I've watched some of the NFL documentaries of the older players, and the families are at risk just as much as the people who have suffered because of the emotional and physical trauma associated with brain injury when they lose it, when they turn into ray Jahollicks, when they get violent, and that's one of the there is a there is a correlation between brain injury and anger, and it's it's it's it's not their fault, it's a byproduct of the injury. And that its shown in the movie. You'll see that what he keeps punching through one of the if I'm not mistaken, one of them the white talks about that they're terrified up So in your opinion, and I say professional opinion, because your background speaks for itself. You're you're more than an intelligent man. You your your list of things you've done is tremendous. Do you think we're doing enough? Or is this something we we have to do? What do you want I have to do more about for will Smith? Like it is because it needs to be taken care of, you know, it's it's the insurance companies. So many physicians don't know anything about it. They don't understand it. Uh, they they just dismiss it. They just dismiss it. Oh well, just a concussion. It's a brand in concussions another word for brandau that's yeah, that's a lot of that comes from Neil. You're gonna concussion and take the next week off and that's the end of it. Yeah, no idea about the long term consequences. And it was through that doctor who started to look at what was happening to the brains themselves and the damage on the blood vessels and all of the connections to it, how the brains started to disintegrate, and how the temporal loads, how the you know, the cerebral cortex, neo cortex, those parts of the brain that affect our logic, our emotions and are thinking I get damaged and then that this essentially it's like I think of your computer. I have a hard drive. It's damaged, you know, and I just reloading the software isn't going to fix it. The motherboard's got you know, you gotta when your motherboard goes, that's where it's over. You just can't upgrade it and move on. You got to do a lot of work, a lot of work. Fascinating. I truly appreciate the I was I use the term I love people who dropped the knowledge. Come on the show and drop the knowledge and just fascinating. But I want to I want to touch. I wanted to shift gears a little bit because I truly I am. I'm gonna come to Canada Lance Store. My friend would love to hear that he's a born bread Canadian, and I told him I'd never come there. I'm coming to be your sidekick on your next project because I fully believe it'd be the most life altering experience I've had. But tell me quickly, and I watched I told you earlier. I watched this because truly you're fascinating everybody. Go please just visit. Uh, let me put it up there again. Go to the website David Brady Communications dot com. You'll see where the books are available. But you read about mister Brady, what he's done, and google him. That's my big term on the on the BDEs, google my guest. Watch the YouTube. It's fascinating. I find this interview more fascinating than anything. But I want if you could please share the story about how you met the Beatles. So my best friend and I totally totally off subject, but I'm just fascinating you meta. We were sixteen years old. We were I was at a Catholic private school called Dellas al, Oakland. My best friend, John Brower was at Upper Canada College, which is this very very very exclose to private school. Now. His uncle and godfather was a former Prime Minister of Canada, John Deacon, and he and I were the only two private school kids. We were the only two whose mothers were divorced, and we were the only two that had motorcycles because we were our friends parents were finance ministers or they. You know, there was a family, there was a chain of stores. They were the wealthiest family in the British Empire. They were acquaintances. At one point, they were sort of friends. We all went to school together. Anyways, John and I were driving down as Main Street in Toronto, and if you've never been to Toronto, you have no idea what you're not. You're missing and if you've missing Vancouver, you haven't seen the most beautiful city on Earth. I'm bardon on and so we're driving down Avenue Road. We see this car. It's it's nineteen I think sixty four would have been our sixty five, so we're neither sixteen or seventeen. And we see this Cadillac with this police escort and it goes into Upper Canada College. I lived down the street from it. John lived the other way down the street front and that was the neighborhood I grew up in. And we followed it in our motorcycles. We pull up this escorts thing. It's off as motorcycle. I'm sitting there with the BSA. That's all. It's all. You saw the picture of it, right, the fires off. This is not a private school kid, That's why the bikers didn't. And I'm sitting there and the guy says, you get out of here. And John Broward goes, you get out of here. Look at my jacket and says running the back upper cabin to college. And that's where we are. He said, do you know who my uncle and godfather is. Oh, he said, it's John Diefenbaker. I want your number, give me the name of your back. And the guy turned as red as your pop. And then the doors opened and out got John, Paul, George and Ringo and it was changing cars to be snuck into the hotel and to have a decoy car take them off. And John Broward, he puts his bike on the stand, walks over. He says, John Lennon, John Brower, we're gonna work together. One day, George Harrison walked over and he said, I love your bike. It was it NPSA. I said yeah, and that BSA was very special. I mean I hadn't what's called wall Phillips injectors onto the first fuel injectors, and I mean it was fast. He was crazy fast, and the compression was so high, and I was so skinny I couldn't kick it over. He tried to went to the cutter with the handlebars, so I used to have to run down the street and jump on it in second gear and probably start talking. And we were so dumb at that moment. We didn't say, oh, by the way, can we have tickets to the show. We just got talking to them and John Brawer said, look, I'm gonna do rock and roll shows and I'd love you to come John, and Lennon said, I bet you. I will three to four years later, and you can probably YouTube the Toronto Rock and Roll Revived and you will see John Lennon on stage with Eric Clapton, Klaus Werman, Yoko in a bag going and people going WHOA. But Lennon at that moment turned to Eric Clapton and said, we don't don't need them anymore, and he was talking about the Beatles and that was the end of the Beatles nineteen sixty nine. Less than six months later, they announced the disbandment Beatles as a band. And you so, I can imagine we just had all the Beatles. Yeah whatever. We did this amazing series called The Young Street Toronto rock and Roll Stories that Netflix wants to pick up, but it's still under license the Canadian broadcaster that doesn't want to release it yet. And I don't blame them, it's the critics went insane. I mean, we have three pages in the Toronto Star, which is the New York Times of Canada. The Globe and Mail full page is the New York Times, The Toronto Star would be the La Times, and I mean the National Post, which should be like, what's the Big Financial not the Financial Post in the US. What's the one I can't remember the name, but they gave us four pages. Show is so amazing and I'll send you a copy if you problem. Let's be on the air that you'll never distribute it to anyone, because wouldn't school We promise, okay, I'll send it to you. You'll be dumbfounded. And what people don't understand is the history of rock and roll. Robbie Robertson from the band Ye So, my best friend and partner that's in the back of the car just was nominated last month in the United States for the release The Basement Take Bob, Dylan and Ben and Jan and I. He's the Grammy. So that was just done with my best friend. And he's another one of my partners. And we've been friends for forty years. But our whole life, honest to God, I have had the most blessed life you can imagine. And I just keep ending up with people like John and Yon, and I just keep ending up with these incredible people who are so talented and so amazing. And Jan got me involved in Young Street. He came to me and said, look, let's do this show. And we did it with Duff Roman, who was the former president of the Chum Music Group in Canada, the largest radio station network in the country. And Duff was my hero as a kid because he was the DJ in Toronto who was the king of DJs. It would be like going back to Wolfman, Jack oh Man. We know True Dikak who was a big XCRB in La when we were teenagers in La. John Brower was in business, was on a big XCRB with both Matt and we go out to the studio and well, we were just there unbelievable. We didn't know any of this was going to happen, Like, we did not know that the things we were doing or we were involved in would end up being you know, that's so so cool, that's so great. It's so corny for a fifty year old guys, that's so cool to hear, to hear this and to and I love your for what it's worth. I love your persona, your personality, you just everything is positive. There's not because you could have went the other way and you talked about earlier, you could have been the most negative h son of a gun I've ever talked to and ever met. And you can you can force that the people in turn down negative. And you've taken everything in your life, the good, the bad, the cool, and now you're sharing it and you're helping other people. And that's that's what the biggest part of the building out experience for me is meeting fascinating people, great tremendous sense of humor and the stories that you're willing to share because in those stories is a message, and that's what I want to thank you for today, in your time is the message. And I always say to everybody who does these podcasts with me, I want if you don't mind me putting you on the spot, I want you to leave everybody here on the BD and on iTunes and SoundCloud and everybody's tuning into this, drop the knowledge one more time. Leave us with that message. Because you're a public speaker, you you go, you do so much. I don't think I think we'd have to have about four shows to fit it in. But if I'm your audience and the BD is your audience, and I'd love to hear how you want us to attack life in twenty sixteen, Just remember you're not alone. That we all face adversity, and adversity is a gift to you from God or the universe to help you grow to be the person you shouldn't be. That's it, That's all I need. I don't know who else, Hey, everybody in the beating, I don't know what else you need, but that's it. Please, I cannot stress enough. Please go visit David Brady Communications dot com. Google this man, you'll find some of his stuff on YouTube. Fascinating. Get the books. They're available on Amazon, Aging with Dignity and Grace. Trans Transforming Childhood Trauma. Isn't that right? Why a spiritual Steps to Reclaim your life that book has there's other transforming childhood trauma. But if you put David Brady Transforming child Trauma, that should bring it up. But if not, it's a spiritual Steps to Reclaim your life and waiting for people who came out of alcoholic or dysfunctional families. I try to put the fun back and dysfunctional. Yeah, I'm a big I'd personally think I have the best sense of humor in the world. So I love when fun part of anything. Yeah yeah, well, I mean you can sit around and mobile about it or act. Oh man, I'll tell you what. I may'd probably have a double picture because it'd be my my face right next sent It's my point. We all are, we all by a year human. We're so imperfect, we are perfectly imperfect. But we're gonna be okay. Yeah, yeah, absolutely, yeah, we're gonna if we want to be okay, we're gonna be okay, be okay. And and uh you know. Did you ever see the movie Lord of the Rings. No, I've never seen it. Have you ever seen The Hobbit? No? Well, my daughters are big into all that stuff. Yeah. Well, in the movie there's there's this red headed to work who goes into battle with his sword. Okay, is ego twin brother litting us up here in this noggin And instead of leading him into battle to strength, he gets up in the morning at five in the morning, ahead of me and says, well, laying today, you're true. You know it's never gonna work out. Throw yourself off the nearest tide building or you know, do that, don't blow that situation up. And what I do, and I think we all have that little toxic dwarf in our heads. I just thank it for sharing in the morning so you can have the day off. Yeah, I appreciate it. I'll handle it from here. Yeah. Fascinating, mister Brady. I can't thank you enough for your time. Thank you. I appreciate it. I look forward to another conversation in the future. Everyone, please go and I talk and I'll talk about this on the BD forever. Go check out that movie Concussions. It's eye opening. More importantly for everyone who doesn't realize it's not just in sports. Watch this over again, listen to it on iTunes. Share this with your friends and family, because it's after this conversation, it's very possible you know someone who's going through this, So share that message with everybody. Mister Brady, thank you so much for being on the BDE today. Well, thank you, and if I could, I'd be happy to post this on my website, which gets a fair about a trappic. Absolutely, you will get this link as soon as we go to air. I will send this to you, and I'll be awaiting my special thing that I will not share with the public. I'll share it with anybody. I'll send it to Steve and tell Steve he can't send it either. You've got it done, deal, mister Bray. I appreciate you and all the conversation. Happy New Year. I wish so much more success in twenty sixteen, and I'll talk to you really soon. Okay, great, thank you, Thank you sir. Everybody to BDE. What a conversation we just had with David Brady. We started off talking about Will Smith in the movie Concussion and led us to outside of sports and what this is really about, and not a better person could have shared that message with us today. So as I say, this is what to build demon experience is about. If you go to my YouTube page at YouTube dot com, slash c slash the build him On experience. I go out and film dates with people who are leading people. I want to meet the coach we met David Brady. He's a coach, he's a life coach. He's sharing his message and it's all positive. I'm gonna entertain you. I'm gonna make you laugh, I'm gonna piss you off. I'm gonna talk wrestling, football and everything in between on face value. But today we got the knowledge. No, this is build him up. I'm gonna build hum on experience. Wait a minute, reverse that, I'm build them up. This is the build um on experience. Do what you say, say what you mean, mean what you do. I'm out, SA you finish wild. Jeff Townsend media sees you good night, And the question is do I stay here? Will you be back? Are you gonna come back? Will you be back? Are you coming back